Friendships can be sources of joy and sources of sorrow. Since there isn't exactly a rule book on what to do when things get tense or go south, I will help you ho to manage the common relationship difficulties that you are facing.

Friends are crucial, but when friendship hurts and friendshifts often hears from people who've been hurt by a friend's broken promise: someone canceled plans at the last minute or declined to attend an important party. We don't have formal contracts with friends where we've agreed to never abandon, betray or disappoint each other. If you bring a fantasy about what the ideal friend will do in any situation to a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

When things feel unbalanced

Maybe you feel like you're always sharing about your life, but your friend doesn't open up about hers. It's common for relationships to experience periods where things are unbalanced. Maybe one friend is going through a breakup and needs extra support. In times like these, it's important that you practice becoming a better listener. It's possible another friend simply has more to discuss at any given time. It's important to ask for what you need, even if it puts you in a vulnerable situation: "Open the door for it to be a two-way street. Two phrases I suggest to trying are, "I'm happy to be able to hear what you're going through. Sometimes I need to talk. Could you listen to my problems?" and "I noticed I'm always sharing about my life. I want you to tell me something about your life." When tensions arise, affirmations can help. When your needs feel unmet, repeat this affirmation: "I am accepting my friends for who they are."

Have a friend disappear on you is tough, especially if you felt close or if the connection seemed promising. Maybe after a fun night out, your friend didn't reply to messages or left an email unanswered. If you linger on the heartache of being ghosted for too long, we can start to feel resentful and angry. "The basic thing about friendship that's so important to remember is that it's optional," she continues. This goes for both parties. We choose others and others choose us. The challenge is to not to label your self "unchosen" and miss out on meeting new friends or cultivating deeper relationships with existing pals. Keep in mind that it makes sense to feel pain after being ghosted, so give your self some time. "One piece of advice is to stop trying to figure out why. It's better for your mental health to accept that you really don't know the reason why. Sometimes, you really don't know what's going on with other people."
No one likes feeling left out. Before sinking into despair, combat the feeling with these tips for beating loneliness. Still, it doesn't feel great when you check Facebook Monday morning to find out that your friends went on a weekend getaway without you. Express your feelings about it but also and not jump to conclusions, brainstorm what might have happened and how you will respond.
These days, with packed calendars and competing obligations, rescheduling plans with friends is all too common. Arranging hangouts with pals can take weeks of back-and-forth. Direct communication is key to overcoming this hurdle. Say, "I really want to see you this week. I know we're both busy, but how about XYZ?" Direct communication can leave you feeling vulnerable,"but the reward always outweighs the risk.
Maybe you're still single and your BFF is married. Maybe your best pal is traveling the world and you're broke, stuck in a cubicle, paying off student loans. Even though you love your friends, you can end up feeling jealous of them. You might think your friends lead easier, more privileged lives than you do. Before this happens, use the envy to your advantage. Sometimes jealousy reveals our deepest desires—and there are ways to make jealousy work for you. Healthy envy can be self-motivating and not mean-spirited or bitter. It could be the other way around as well: Your friends might be jealous of you. Either way, "Self-talk can help. Remind yourself of what you do have and that your jealousy is only a temporary feeling that now that you're aware of, you're going to work to not let it ruin your friendship."

If you experience the nine clear signs that you're in a toxic friendship, it may be time for you to do the same. That doesn't mean it's easy. Losing a friend either to an argument, cross-country move, betrayal or other reason is painful enough. What makes grief worse is that you may not feel permission to mourn the loss in the same way you would separating from your partner. Example: "Imagine someone telling their boss that they need to take a day off work because they had a falling out with a friend. Now, imagine what would happen if someone asked to take a personal day after a divorce. The boss will say sure." Friend breakups can be just as traumatic as a romantic split or family estrangement, and it's important to honor that pain. "Acknowledgement is big,". "Acknowledge that friendship is beautiful and rewarding, and that its loss is significant."
It's easy to look back on the friendships of youth with longing. Some reminiscing can be healthy, but only to a point. If you're always looking back, you'll have a tough time getting new relationships to live up to rosy memories. Making new friends as an adult isn't easy, but here are some ideas how you can meet new people. As you encounter new friends, look for common core beliefs, such as a value for creativity or spirituality. "Shared values are the best predictor of longevity in a friendship,". Not only can shared values potentially make a friendship last, but they will influence your well-being in powerful ways. "Friendships subtly steer our beliefs, our values, and even our physical and emotional health. Although resolutions to enact new diet and exercise plans and vows to change our character are all too easy to break, if we befriend people whose philosophies and habits we admire, we naturally start adopting aspects of their personalities and lifestyles through a positive desire to be with and to be like our friends."
If your problem is that you feel the friendhip is stuck in a rut, try shaking things up with one of these riveting conversation starters. But breaking out of this "blah" pattern might take work". Kick the friendship up a notch with new experiences. You can try adding new people to the friendship. If you and your friend always go for coffee, ask one or more new friends to join you. If it's two couples that always get together, try meeting your friend alone so you can bond in different ways. Go to the movies or take in a show. Take a cooking class together or start a book club.
Remember that all relationships ebb and flow, Dr. First, consider these nine ways that paranoia can ruin your relationships. Then, before jumping to conclusions, I suggest you avoid overreacting. There can be work, family, romantic relationship, or even other friendship challenges that your friend is dealing with that have nothing to do with you. Try to find out what's going on in your friend's life that might be causing her to pull away. If your friend is really not responding to you because of you or the friendship, see if you can figure out what's bothering your friend. Part of being genuine is being honest so get to the bottom of things after you figure out the root of the issue. If your friendship is put to the test, remember these tips for being a true friend.
It is possible to make and keep lifelong friendships, but many friends do end up growing apart at some point. One classic example is when one friend moves on from a "partying stage" during emerging adulthood and no longer has much in common with a former drinking partner. The friend who is moving forward can experience guilt and shame for leaving the other behind. The key is letting friends play roles in your life. Don't expect too much from any one friend. When you feel ready for a wild night out, call that friend up. Let people be a certain puzzle piece rather than an entire puzzle.
Spending a ton of time on social media can leave you feeling like you have hundreds of friends, but no one to grab a coffee with or join you for a movie. Feeling the need for real-life pals? In fact, your social media habits could be hurting your relationships. One way to bond offline is to set up a structured meeting—a walking crew or book group—that meets regularly. An organized group can provide guaranteed face time with friends to build on your relationship. The bottom line is that you need to make time to be with friends. If we understood how beneficial real friends are, I think we'd be less passive and more careful about how we treat them.

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