Do you need hypnotherapy for self esteem? Do you tend to have a negative view of yourself and what you are really worth? We all have days when we don’t feel so good about ourselves but if you feel like this most of the time, it can be a sign that you have low self esteem.
This is a really common issue and I see lots of clients who are struggling with self esteem issues. Poor self esteem can affect other parts of your life too, including your mental health and relationships and hold you back in life
If you have low self esteem, here are some of the things that may be true:
- Being overly critical of yourself and believing negative things about yourself
- Comparing yourself to other people and drawing negative results
- Feeling negatively about life in general
- Not feeling able to deal with challenges in your life
- Avoiding situations that may challenge you or scare you (including social situations)
- Not feeling able to assert yourself
- Blaming yourself for things you’re not at fault for
- Feeling that you don’t deserve to be happy
- Worrying that no one likes you
Here are some tips for boosting your self esteem:
Identify your negative beliefs
With low self esteem, a lot of your thoughts about yourself are likely to be negative and this can become second nature.
Recognising examples of this in your everyday life is really important for building your self esteem. Write them down and challenge the “evidence” for them. You’ll probably find that there is no real evidence behind your beliefs but there is plenty of facts to dispute them.
Hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to see yourself in a more positive light and challenge negative views of yourself.
Accept who you are
One of the big reasons behind low self esteem is the desire to be someone other than yourself and not accepting who you are as a person.
If you don’t like who you are as a person and are constantly wanting to change this, it’s hard to feel good about yourself or see yourself in a positive light.
You may never like yourself 100% and there will probably always be the odd thing you’d like to change. If you can get most of the way there, this self acceptance can boost your self esteem. Hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to get there.
Don’t compare yourself to other people
When your self esteem is low, it’s easy to feel as though everyone else is better than you and you can never measure up to them.
The reality is this: no one is perfect and everyone has plus and minus points. And just like you, these people are probably also dealing with their issues. There’s also a good chance that they have things that they don’t like about themselves too, no matter how they seem on the outside.
Seeing the bigger picture and not comparing yourself negatively to other people is a key part of building your self esteem.
Focus on your strengths
When your self esteem is low, you’re more likely to focus on negative things about yourself and gloss over the good points. Sometimes, you may not even recognise what you’re good at or what other people may admire about you.
We’re all good at something, even if we can’t always admit when this is the case! Pick one thing that you can use a positive starting point and focus on this to begin with. It doesn’t matter so much what this is as long as it’s something you can take pride in. Hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to focus in on your strengths and abilities.
Don’t be afraid to say no
Do you find yourself agreeing to everything (even if you don’t really want to) because you don’t have the confidence to say no to people?
Finding the strength to say no to situations that don’t feel comfortable to you can be a big deal if you’re not used to it but it can be very liberating!
Don’t avoid difficult situations
Self esteem can make you more prone to social anxiety and this can encourage you to avoid any situations that are likely to be anxiety inducing or challenging.
This is your mind’s way of protecting you but from a self esteem perspective, it’s actually denying you the opportunity to come through the situation and change what you think you know about yourself. It “confirms” all of the doubts in your mind and reinforces the negative beliefs in your mind.
Put these tips into action and talk to me today to discuss how hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to feel about yourself and stop holding you back.